The way I see it you have two problems. The first is that you seem to be a little confused about what love is. Love looks out for the best interest of others, protects, encourages and love is patient. Love doesn't take advantage of others, put others at risk for selfish desires, and love definitely doesn't scare or hurt. The second problem is one that I see in sexually active and abused young ladies all the time. You are willing to put up with whatever crap he wants to throw at you because you feel like you have some kind of special attachment to him since you've had sex. I'm trusting that you appreciate my opinion since you chose to write me, so please allow me to be very honest with you. YOU NEED TO END THIS RELATIONSHIP NOW! Put your emotions aside because they are what led to the first mistake of starting to have sex in the first place. Use your head and really evaluate the mess that you're in.  If your friend or a little sister were in the same situation as you are, you know you would give them the same advice I am giving you. You need to care and look out for yourself the same way and get rid of this guy, so that you can focus on what really matters; your future. It is EXTREMELY COMMON for girls who have been abused to end up in unhealthy and abusive relationships for the rest of their lives, because they are easy prey for jerks that like to control and intimidate vulnerable young ladies.

 

I know I don't know you , but please trust that I have been working with teens for YEARS and I know what I am talking about. It's kinda like this... If someone was caught in a forest fire, who's advice about escaping the fire would be the most beneficial: Someone who was stuck in the middle of the mess and could barely see because of the smoke or someone who was safely looking down from above and knew the territory??? If you're not careful your going to keep making bad decisions because your emotions are clouding your judgment and you're in too deep to see your situation for what it really is.

 

I hope you are able to receive this and choose to do what's best for you and your future. Take care.